“Sorry” is a simple word that is almost unpronounceable for some people. They may go years without speaking to their loved ones, lose their jobs, destroy families, but still not manage to utter that short “forgive me.” What lies behind this? Pride? Fear? Mental disorder? The personality type of someone who does not apologize has a complex structure. To understand it, one needs to delve into the depths of the individual's personality. Narcissist: I am perfect, therefore I can't be wrong The most common personality type of a non-apologizing person is narcissistic. The narcissist sincerely believes in his uniqueness. For him, admitting a mistake is equivalent to admitting that he is not a god but an ordinary mortal. This is unbearable. Therefore, the narcissist rewrites reality: “It was you who provoked me,” “I was just joking, but you didn't understand,” “You are too sensitive.” He will not apologize even if the evidence is clear. Instead of apologies, he devalues the victim's feelings. Living with such a person means constantly doubting yourself. Perfectionist: mistake = catastrophe For a perfectionist, a mistake is not just a mistake. It is the destruction of the ideal image of oneself. He is so afraid of being imperfect that he denies the very possibility of a mistake. If a perfectionist stepped on your foot, he would rather say “you put your foot there” than “I'm sorry.” An apology for him is an admission of his own worthlessness. Perfectionists often burn out because they live in constant stress. Their inability to apologize is a defense against the internal critic that already tortures them. Victim personality type: always offended Paradoxically, a person with a victim mindset also does not apologize. Why? Because he believes that the world is constantly attacking him, and any of his actions is forced self-protection. “Yes, I was rude, but I was provoked.” “I was late because I have depression.” He does not take responsibility and finds justifications. ... Read more